In a world where social media makes it seem like everyone is having the time of their life, you might need brassy balls to go out there and do things differently. One of the challenges I have encountered living in a somewhat small German city is that it might take long to build a large circle of friends, especially those with whom you can carry out many leisure activities. And depending on their phase in life, it might even get harder to gather ‘quorum’. At 30-35, chances are that people have other priorities; family, career or are venturing out into other social circles. And if you are from a culture where you have always been surrounded by friends and new acquaintances, because it is generally easy to meet new people, this can be very challenging indeed. But take courage. Self love is a thing. If you need to take a trip to the cinema or to your favourite restaurant to wind down after a busy week, do it even if you have to do so by yourself. And don’t be apologetic about it!